10 things i wish i could tell my younger self.
I know lot’s of people do this post, but for me you really do change a lot and despite when you’re young and you think you know everything and also feel at times like nothing will ever change, it will! I promise. When i was younger i was unaware of all things self love/self care related and these are the things you 100% need in life! But if you don’t learn this whilst you’re young, you will learn it and everything will start to make sense.
I feel like my early 20s where SO confusing and i still sometimes feel a bit lost and have my bad days like everyone else. But i always come back to feeling content in myself and what i want in life, after the confusion goes.
So here goes 10 things i would tell my younger self.
1. Don’t try to control everything in life.
Life really doesn’t go as you plan it! I use to wish it did, but i realised after every lesson there is a blessing! Which is so true. I always use to try fight what i did want and not enjoy what i actually have. As you resist and try to control everything it just makes life hard! it is so much easier to just go with the flow. I believe we all have a different paths and everything is meant to happen at the right time. Nobody has life all planned out! Even if they think they do, things change in life very quickly. Don’t stress yourself out about it.
2. Self love & Self care is essential.
All things self related are a must! Read blogs watch youtube videos on it, read books. Just get educated about it, it will help you so much! It is the foundation of life.
3. You don’t have to be a skinny to be pretty.
I use to think if i was thin i would be so much happier. I have always struggled with my weight. But now at 26 after losing weight and not being mentally healthy, to putting weight back on weight and my mental health is getting back to being healthy. I realised that being a certain weight doesn’t make you happy and restricting yourself makes you miserable. Maybe the weight i am right now isn’t society acceptable. But my mind is starting to get a healthier relationship with food and i am happy. If you have seen Grace Francesca’s blog, youtube & twitter it will help you a lot. She is very inspiring.
4. Embrace who you are.
Don’t try to be like other people and try to fit in. do whats makes you feel good and don’t worry about what everyone else is doing! Embrace the things you feel are ugly in yourself and turn them into your own kind of beautiful! Everyone has things they don’t like. But if you add a bit of your own style to it, people will get inspired.
5. Find your passion
I was never really taught when i was younger to find a hobby i loved. I guess i did lot’s of random little things like dance & art, but i lost interest very quickly. I now have found my passion which is writing, I love writing it helps me process my thoughts and makes me feel really relaxed. I am a creative person i would say. But i never really had the confidence in myself when i was younger. But when you find something you’re good at and you love, your confidence will grow.
6. Things will make sense, even if it doesn’t feel like it will right now.
I feel like everyone has times where they feel confused and don’t really know what they’re doing and all through out life i think you will feel this at some point. But it does get easier, at times of confusion just remember to relax! Work on self care and self love and it will become clear soon.
7. This time a year ago my life was very different.
I had probably the worst couple of years, which i won’t go into. ( One day i might) But i did not think i would have my own place and feel content! I have found my passion for writing and making this blog has been the best thing i have done! Just know it really does change. Just because you aren’t where you want to be right now, doesn’t mean you never will relax, It will come.
8. Nothing is perfect and that is okay.
I would look for perfection in everything and still do sometimes, but i have learnt it doesn’t exist! Perfection is boring anyway. Nobody can judge you on what you aren’t doing right. Because i guarantee they are still a work in progress.
9. It’s okay to be vunerable.
This one is huge for me! I have learnt to be vulnerable and show it! I see it as a strength now. Everyone is so quick to hide there bad bits out of fear. I use to be so private, i still have my moments but i have realised my vulnerability inspires others. It shows that you aren’t all alone in this big lie of a society. I am not afraid to voice my opinion anymore. People will judge but that is there issue that they have to face. vulnerability is brave! Especially in a society that promotes faking happiness. I LOVE seeing other people being their authentic self.
10. You don’t need to be with a man to be happy.
Whenever you see a relative they always ask ‘have you got a boyfriend’ not are you healthy? Are you happy? But have you got a boyfriend lol! It’s crazy. Yes being in a relationship is nice. But being single is fine to! I promote being single until you really get to know yourself. Of course you can work on yourself, whilst in a relationship but it makes it more difficult! This is when you get hurt or you hurt someone else, when you aren’t ready. You have to think of not just your wants and needs but theirs to. If you already have an idea of who you are, before going into a relationship it will help. Don’t just think because everyone else is doing it you have to as well. The right person will come into your life at the right time and you will be still learning about yourself, just don’t rush to find someone.
Hope this helps any of use to.
Love Kirsty x