10 Things That Will Help You Fall In Love With Your Life Instead Of A Person.
Learning how to have self-respect if you have never been taught how to, can seem hard! I have always had some form of respect for myself. But in certain areas I haven’t and I am not talking sexually! I had no boundaries so I would accept who ever for what they were as in ‘toxic people’ I think we are taught to put others first before ourselves! But as I have grown up I have learnt boundaries. I now know I do not have to put up with toxic people anymore! I have learnt that it’s necessary to put my self first and you should too! Learning boundaries, self respect, self love, self care, self awareness, is key!
I think it comes from a lack of awareness and not really knowing yourself. So whatever age you are it doesn’t matter, you can always learn. I really do wish they taught self awareness and emotions at school! But that is a completely different post which I could write a lot about!
The other day I was speaking to someone I know and it was kind of hard for me to listen. Because they aren’t very self aware, I have tried to speak to them and tried to change how they look at things. But ultimately it is down to yourself and what you read up on and when you want to try and better yourself.
I don’t want to go into to much detail, but this lack of respect and boundaries was/is hard to watch and it hasn’t just happened once and when you’re not learning over an over you start to see the person as toxic! With a lot of people in life, you do start to realise everyones perspective isn’t like your own. But you still want the best for these people! I know this person will get it one day.
So I thought I would write some things to help you get started on learning to love yourself. This is how I started, I’m still on my self love journey. But I don’t think you ever stop learning
1. Find what your passionate about.
So for me I found my blog and found that I can inspire and talk about all the things, I didn’t know about growing up. It makes me feel good knowing that I can help others. So this is a big one find something that makes you excited! I think about blogging from the moment I wake up to the time I go a bed. It’s not a chore, I love it. So find something you really love to do. Even if you can only spend 1 hour a day, doing it! It can take a while to find something you really love, but once you do you will know you have found it. There is so much more to love about life, then just a person.
2. Become more in-tune with yourself.
Your true self is always right! If something doesn’t feel right it isn’t. always trust what you feel! Once you learn about your true self, you will learn about what to accept and what not to. It becomes easy! You notice when someone isn’t acting right. You’re more sure of yourself and others will feel that and won’t cross your boundaries.
3. You value the people you do have.
Romantic relationships aren’t the only things that will fill your life with love and happiness! Although it is nice to have there is lots more to life. When you’re focused on things other than your love life, you invest more time in the people who fulfil you—your family members, friendships. You learn the incredible value of those people.
4. You focus on other important things in life.
When you’re not focused on a relationship, you make more time for yourself —your career, hobbies, future. You start to focus on more healthy things. You learn more about yourself and you don’t just go with how someone else wants you to be.
5. You start enjoying life as it is and not how you would want it to be.
Of course you will still have goals and know what you want in the future. But you will be living your best life already and anything else will just be add ons. You won’t chase things that don’t build or grow you.
6. You lend a listening ear.
You become more open, to be able to listen to other people and how they would like to change. You want to help them become their best self and you start building people up.
7. You learn to be more vunerable.
I use to always think being vulnerable made you weak. But as I have gotten older I have realised your truth helps you connect with people. It is not a weakness at all! It makes you more happy.
8. You take more time to appreciate the little things.
You become more in the moment. Like this morning I see the sunrise and it was so nice to just be aware of it. I looked at the other people who were around me and they weren’t looking at it. Being aware in the moment is so good! You’re aren’t thinking to far ahead.
9. You want to live even more authentically.
You love who you are, but you know you could always be more authentic. Most people are scared to follow what they want. Like this blog a lot of people are scared to write authentically, thinking people will judge them. But I know i’m living my truth so if you’re living your truth you won’t be judging others. You will be happy that they are doing what they love.
10. You will feel more fulfilled.
When you fall in love with your life, you aren’t looking for a romantic relationship to make you feel whole. You already feel complete because of people around you. The memories you are continually making. Your happiness isn’t dependent upon a significant other, it will be all the tiny, wonderful things that give you meaning and purpose.